What is Self Love?
Self-Love…
We all get excited when we say the word ‘self' love’ because we know it consists of taking baths, getting manicure/pedicures and the occasional alone time.
I like to take self love to another level.
Self love consists of deeper emotional maintenance. Taking the time to discover personal fears, facing traumas, releasing baggage and topping it with the occasional meltdown while watching Eat Pray Love. There’s nothing deeper than falling in love with yourself and I’m sorry but you absolutely cannot love yourself if you are not willing to uncover your deepest fears. It’s the moment that you take full responsibility of your personal amazing qualities as well as your flaws.
I believe that we mirror every relationship and friendship in the present moment. This means that if you are not feeling your greatest, unsure with your career, dealing with financial insecurities, angry about previous ex’s and you walk into a bar, guess what? You will immediately get attracted to somebody with those same qualities. The connection will be instant because you both recognize what your soul is going through. So, is this fate? Perhaps. Is it something that will be long lasting? Most likely not. Why?
Because we are meant to meet the right people at the right time to EVOLVE. This means that this amazing person who seemed so perfect at the time, who made you laugh and made you feel so connected will eventually become just an ordinary person. Because the second you start to work on yourself just a little more you might just outgrow that person. If one day you decide it’s the appropriate time to work on your financial insecurities you might just realize that your person who you considered your soulmate is more financially unstable than you. You probably had that ‘a-ha moment’ and realized what your passion is and changed your career and all of a sudden you realize that the person you were dating is still at a loss in their career and so all of a sudden you are no longer attracted to their lack of drive.
Is there hope? Yes. You better cross your fingers that they work on themselves or consider that relationship a life lesson.
This is why Self Love is so important!
EVERY individual should be working on themselves to keep improving, to keep evolving, to keep understanding what their soul is trying to tell them.
Because, yes, that person that you met at the bar can potentially be somebody who is worth your time and worthy of seeing your best version of yourself but only IF they understand how to love themselves too.
How Do You Practice Self Love?
Listen to inspirational podcasts
Read personal development books
Surround yourself with like-minded individuals
Ignore those who are not on your path
Eliminate negative people out of your life
Attend personal development workshops/seminars
Work on your Spiritual Practice
Meditate a min. of 5-10 mins a day
Be consistent with a physical activity at least twice a week
Maintain a healthy diet
Take control of any bad habits (alcohol, smoking, sex)
Spend at least 2-4 hours a week of YOU time (undisturbed with silenced phone)
Spend quality time outdoors in nature to ground and center yourself
Develop your intuition
So the next time you decide to go out with your friends, take a look in your mirror and ask yourself
“Am I ready to meet somebody with the same qualities, same fears, same flaws and same insecurities as me?”
And really think twice about accepting that glass of cider. Because you might just realize a heartbreak later that your souls weren’t ready to love just yet.